It has been a tough long week around these parts, made far more bearable with the support of cherished online buddies (you know who you are) and my journal, aways the loyal untangler of knotted up parts.
Here are some of my recent thoughts about how our perceived flaws may one day become adored foibles.
A love letter – From Flaws to Adored Foibles
That nose that was labelled ‘Germanic’ – a term you did not understand as a child, but interpreted as large and obtrusive, will become a beloved daily connection to your father.
The name that no one else had at school, it singled you out in a way that you hated to be discriminated. That name now provides an opportunity for you to be remembered in a sea of names.
Sensitivity will reign as bold as the most brazen. Both are interesting. Both are well-rounded.
You can kick ass by demanding attention. You can be quietly fierce.
You can cry or swear, shy away or step up in your gladiators. Seek validation or not give a sh*t what anybody thinks.
You can revel in a swirl of supporters or a cluster of comrades. Claim the spotlight or hold your own in the shadows.
All are ok and sometimes all exist in the very same human being.
Even the way you love will be flawed. The way you express that love, the way you show up, the way you think and act and look and behave.
All a matted mess of deliberate flaws. All utterly beautiful.
Get rid of your flaws and what would be left?
So stop comparing yourself to everyone else or at the very least – don’t let comparison steal your peace and feed your shame.
Your story is being crafted out of your imperfections.
It was always supposed to be this way. How funny that you are just figuring it out.