I was teaching a class of Korean pre-schoolers and it soon became apparent that all of the methods I used with older students were not getting me anywhere. Many of these cuties could barely speak Korean let alone English!
They would point, laugh and stare at me cluelessly. A few of them dissolved into tears.
Despite all of this, those classes were some of my favorites. I connected with the kids through song and dance. I gesticulated and spoke loudly – trying anything in an effort to command their interest and attention.
I wasn’t concerned about my newbie teacher status or appearing unprofessional and I’m certain that any passer-by would have been convinced that I was an experienced communicator.
I was tapping into a pool of natural confidence that did not exist in my usual way of thinking.
This confidence is something, I believe, we all possess and have access to. It’s just waiting to be reclaimed.
Reclaim your confidence
In ‘normal’ circumstances, I am a quiet speaker and introvert, who struggles to string a few paragraphs together without pausing. In normal circumstances, I prefer to be a watcher and observer, someone who has little time for small talk and is comfortable letting others take the lead. In normal circumstances, I avoid getting up in front of people to speak. Period.
But far, far way, in a different environment and as a traveller intent on making the most out of her foreign experience and holiday – I was open to trying new things and approaching life from a totally different mindset.
If I can do this. So can you.
Look for areas in your life where you are naturally confident.
Confidence is subjective and often dependent on the context and environment we find ourselves in.
Let’s simplify it:
You may think you lack confidence but, take a look at your life:
Do you feel confident enough to get yourself dressed every morning and make breakfast?
Do you have the confidence to speak to your boss if there is a problem or respond to a few questions by a telemarketer?
If required, do you think you would be able to make a meal for five, settle some accounts by phone, start a home-based business or help create a fantasy birthday party for 10 kids?
I’m going to guess that the answer to some, if not all of the above questions would be “Yes”.
We all have areas in our lives that we feel incredibly confident in. So certain that we do not give it a second thought.
Remind yourself of that.
You’re not lacking confidence, You’re just experiencing moments of self-doubt and that is something you have not only experienced but conquered in other areas of your life, right?
Be open to trying new things or approaching your world differently. Experiment and play and you will discover confidence you never knew existed.
Know your values.
We all have an innate sense of confidence in the things that really matter. When we know our values, we can continue to fill our lives with the things that are deeply important and shed the things that are less relevant.
This leads to increased personal happiness and when we feel good, we feel more confident!
Make friends with your fear
Expect your fear to pop up. Again and again.
It doesn’t mean that you are not confident. Fear is your friend. It’s there to teach you, test you and walk with you – through it all.
Listen to your fears but don’t let them take the steering wheel. Develop trust in yourself.
When our trust in ourselves deepens, so too does our inner confidence and moxie.
Be vulnerable. Stay open.
Some days we shine. Some days we are a little lacklustre. Lean into the highs and the lows – you’ve been around long enough to know that this is the fabric of life!
Number one rule to remember when you’re down – don’t beat yourself up.
No matter how difficult you are finding it – just keep persevering.
Practice. Practice. Practice. Baby steps to radical self worth.
So how are you feeling right now? A little more ready to reclaim your confidence?
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