All in a jumbled celebration and acknowledgement of self love!
Today, I’m stoked to welcome back Deb Dane – who has contributed a letter of love and compassion, to her current self.
Happy International Self Love Day!
I think we have all heard the line “how do I love thee let me count the ways”.
There is no limit to the numbers of love letters and poems that exist.
We also find it no trouble to express beautiful and uplifting words of encouragement to people we know – not even reserved for those we are closest to.
So why is it so hard to deliver words of love, compassion and encouragement to ourselves?
Are we not worthy of the same level of care?
Is it uncomfortable?
Are we held to a higher standard than everyone else we meet?
As much as I believe in myself and think I am awesome (some days) I still have that hyper critical voice in my head and she sometimes invades my heart.
I get annoyed with myself for any mistakes – as if it were even remotely possible to avoid them all.
I hold myself back when I get caught up in comparisons – why even start when I will be never be as good, popular or successful as “her” (too many “her”s).
I forget my own message that we are all enough as we are .
I thought today I would write myself a note of love and compassion that I could read back again and again until it quiets the voice and invades my heart.
A self love letter
Every day I want you to remember 3 little words – you are enough. You do enough, you care enough, you are strong enough, you are kind enough, you give enough, you love enough, you – are – enough.
Each day you stay true to yourself all while growing and changing and moving in new directions. You reconcile what works with what must change. You are sure and yet you stay open to new ideas and viewpoints.
When days come that bring the voice to the forefront and you hear negative words and feel them cutting you down please tell that bitch to shut up. Would you let her talk to your daughters like that? Would you let her talk to your friends like that? Then do not let her talk to you like that.
I want you to know that in your 40 years you have lived a lifetime. You have survived. You managed to stay open to love and keep fighting for it. You continue to learn and to teach. You are a homebody who travels, an introvert who socialises and connects.
It is okay to break open fully and stop being in control all the time.
It is okay to make mistakes and messes and not know the answers.
It is okay – and necessary – to go and play and breathe and do nothing.
It is okay to figure things out as you go, to invest in yourself, to take chances and see whether you fly or fail. The trick is what you do next after you fly or fail. Both still require a “what next?”.
You are okay. You are enough.
Remember another 3 little words – I – love – you.
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