Becoming a mum is fraught with experiences that can lead you to a whole new level of learning.
From the very first moment you gingerly claim your newborn …your life is no longer yours.
You are officially ‘owned’, required to be on call 24 /7 and have orders communicated to you in a cacophonous language not yet fully understood by either parties.
Not to say that it’s all hard work and tears.
There are many positives to having your world shaken sideways by parenthood.
After a while, you might even discover that you have inadvertently adopted a few ‘habits of the highly successful’.
The highly successful habits of mums.
(These are just some of the fabulous comments I received from my facebook community, when asked about positive habits they had developed, or improved on, since becoming a mum).
You’re an early riser with improved eating habits
You now have the permanent built-in alarm of a serious go-getter that wakes you up early no matter what.
You may even morph into a healthier version of yourself, given that you no longer go out partying every weekend and have small bodies to nourish.
Melina Dahms -Good eating – my bub is starting solids and I’m actually eating three proper meals now!
Tara Muller - Eating habits definitely improved and safety everywhere – especially driving.
Ellyn Edmonds -taking the time to eat breakfast (most days).
Madelaine Winstanley- Healthy eating and definitely more sustainable living – we are leaving this place for our gorgeous ones and need to take care of it.
Lee Alexander- I’m looking after myself better, though that could be a midlife crisis!
You’re organised and efficient.
Establishing routines, organising schedules and planning events are things that have now become second nature.
Household supplies are dutifully replenished, budgets micro-managed and a multitude of other tasks accomplished every day.
Deb McNair- I’m better at prioritizing and leaving the things that don’t matter!! Oh and for some reason I’m better at cleaning now. I try for one room every couple of days and wash nearly every day!
Cat Conidi -”Close enough can be good enough” which is great, because I have to more careful with how I spend my time – to fit things in.
Sonia Donaldson- I’m much more organized and structured with routine!
Your self-confidence and communication skills bloom.
As your child’s first role model, you become more adept at building and maintaining positive relationships and developing confidence in your own ways of being.
Angie Brereton - I’m better at setting boundaries and verbalizing my expectations.
Linda Bennett - Trust your intuition. If it feels wrong it usually is.
Anne Mazzuchelli -Being more assertive. Have never been able to stick up for myself, but when it comes to my kids, I lose my shiz!
You learn to let go and focus on what really matters
Leonie Holland- I have become extremely patient and have learnt not to hold a grudge and just move on!
Emma Grey -I only have enough time for so much ‘drama’ in my life, so I’m more careful now about avoiding buying in to the drama around me.
Pam Eberstadt -In job interviews in past life, when asked that usual question -’What are you weaknesses?’, I always said, ‘I’m impatient’. I’d like to think I have learned patience that I never knew I was capable of, since becoming a mum.
You’re more loving to yourself and others
Being a mum may not always educate the intellect but it does educate the heart.
Sophia Konidis -Unconditional Love
Deb Mills - Letting go of perfectionism. (Still a work in progress).
Debra Dane -verbally expressing love, letting go of perfectionism (work in progress like Deb.)
As an older mum of growing up grandchildren, I can relate to all your comments and just want to say that most mums do a great job. Being a mum can be such a thankless job for want of a better word, but the MOST rewarding also. You are bringing up the next generation. Remember also to treat yourself at least once a week, better once a day if possible and remember you ARE invaluable. ~Anita Cooper.
I read somewhere that the brain gives knowledge but the heart gives direction.
As a mum, even though your heart now moves independent of your body – the sense of purpose, passion and direction you feel can spur you on to achieve greatness in all areas of life.
* Huge Thanks to all the rockin’ mammas who contributed their thoughts and comments to this post.
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