One of the things that changed for me when I became a mum was the growing awareness that life was not as exciting anymore.
With three kids born in the same amount of years, I had become reliant on routine.
A certain amount of predictability kept me sane and organized – or at the very least, gave the impression there was a method to our madness.
The kidlets seemed to understand that there was a rhythm to each day. They enjoyed the fact that they could anticipate a story before bedtime, or some fruit before lunch.
It was comforting and it worked for us.
The downside of any routine-based existence is the pervasive smell of groundhogs day, with a slight tinge of mundane.
No sharing of crazy weekend stories by the coffee machine, no spontaneous trips away and a huge impediment to anyone with a roaming spirit!
Even now, as a solopreneur, there are no work staff parties to look forward to, no unexpected pay rises, and no meetings that I have not either initiated myself, or planned for.
Excitement is an attitude
What I’ve learned from all these changes in life, is that a spirit of excitement and fun is more of an attitude.
It’s the feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and think about the impending day – with positive anticipation, or a sense of dread.
It’s not so much what you have planned, but how you interpret and approach events, that can make all the difference.
It’s up to you to keep your life exciting and fresh!
The day I accepted that my babies were always going to be awake by 5.30am, and that I could either resent the fact, or choose to get up a little earlier and take a few luxurious moments for myself, was the day that my life became my own again.
The day that I realised that the organic process of making friends while at uni, or travelling the world, was hemispheres away from the new terrains afforded in parenthood, was the day that I reclaimed my moxie and discovered new ways of meeting people.
The day I decided that I didn’t need to wait until my kids were older to pursue my passions, was the day that my fear relented – just enough for me to start taking action.
More recently, the moment it dawned on me, that I could actually ASK my husband to give me a little more of what I desired (rather than expecting him to be a mind-ninja) – was the day that our relationship became a little more fun and a whole lot easier!
When life is not exciting, it’s up to you to make it so.
To shake things up a little or change your perspective.
To keep the element of surprise in your relationship, to your partner and yourself
To execute a change of scenery or a sway of plans.
When life is not exciting, all it takes is a determination not to let the relentlessness of parenthood, steer you away from the desires of your heart.
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