The value of creating rituals for your children.
One of my three daughters is a ‘sleeper’. As a newborn, she was the twin who would remain in stasis, while her partner-in-crime warbled and screamed in the adjoining cot.
As a toddler she would take a snooze, moments after the car started to move.
At six years old, she can often be found slipping into Dreamworld, by the time we have finished tucking in her sister and saying our goodnights.
In the past few weeks, we have developed this habit, where I will come into her room in the morning to wake her for school.
Gently kissing her eyelids and her nose, I’ll ask if my beautiful girl is awake and she will slowly emerge from her former state, wrap her arms around my neck and smile ‘Good Morning’.
This one particular day, she seemed to be in such a deep slumber that I thought it would be best to leave her for another 10 minutes.
Moments later, I was stunned when she emerged from the room, sobbing and angry.
She explained to my now muddled self, that she was often awake when I came into her room each morning but that she would lay there, waiting for me to ‘do our special thing’.
The value of creating rituals with your children
We had unwittingly created our own ritual and my daughter had attached a deep sense of meaning to it.
Our morning wake-up held invisible qualities, that she had internalized and come to trust in.
A steadfast follower of daily rituals for myself, I understand the power these small habits have, to nourish on every level.
Bedtime stories, celebratory dinners by candlelight, getting dressed up for Christmas day, daily gratitude prayers, weekend walks in nature; these are all examples of family rituals that provide the opportunity to share, connect and impart meaning.
They leave a soul-felt residue, that lasts for a long time.
To have this reminder from my daughter was one of those moments where I was enveloped by the knowledge that this wild and precious role of parenthood is important, and worth celebrating.
Do you believe in the value of rituals?
What rituals are you creating in your home?