When is the last time you celebrated your successes? When did you stop to acknowledge your small wins, have a celebratory toast or do a little fist pump and happy dance?
I have a client who has lost 30kg in the past year, on her own, with nothing but the support from her family and the desire to change.
Another client, whose ultimate business goal that has not yet come to fruition. However, she has had a number of smaller wins and created solid traction, due to a formidable work ethic that has lead her to connect with over 150 other brands/companies!
Success doesn’t have to be so hard
In both instances, these women seemed almost nonchalant about their achievements.
They acknowledged, that if these ‘wins’ had been attained by others, it would most definitely be a big deal.
In retrospect, their goals had not been as difficult to reach as they had anticipated, and this lead them to believe their efforts lacked merit.
They failed to see that every small step they had taken counted!
Success doesn’t always have to be so hard. We make it that way.
We visualise goals as looming obelisks, beyond the bounds of possibility, but in six months, a year, or even ten years; if we keep persisting and tapping away piece by piece, remarkable things can happen!
Success comes, one small step at a time.
I worked half my life to become an overnight success, and still it took me by surprise ~Jessica Savitch
Be your own coach or cheerleader.
Take notice of your small wins.
If you manage to exercise for two days a week, after three years of complete inactivity, reflect on how good that feels for a moment.
If you and your husband have finally finished that three-year house renovation, have a party!
If you managed to settle your kids by 8pm for the first evening in a month, after trying every imagined settling technique and coming across one that finally works – Dance around the room naked!
Whatever it is, take notice and give yourself permission to celebrate.
Often our happiness comes, not from reaching our goals but from celebrating them!
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate ~Oprah Winfrey
Self-love and validation
How many times have you wished that someone would notice and acknowledge your personal best?
How often does that actually happen, particularly in our roles as mums?
I have lost count of the times I have spent cleaning up the same toys, off the same floor in the same day.
The endless laundry, lunches and meals prepared, sometimes with love, and other times in haste, on a daily basis.
While we can accept that this is what we signed up for, aren’t we sometimes waiting for a little pat on the back?
Have you ever tried giving yourself a bit of positive affirmation when you need it?
Whatever it is that you would like to to hear, say it to yourself.
If you feel silly giving yourself a high-five, write it down or make a list of your recent wins and accomplishments.
Do it until it feels natural and make it a habit.
It is by teaching that we teach ourselves, by relating that we observe, by affirming that we examine, by showing that we look, by writing that we think, by pumping that we draw water into the well. ~Henri Frederic Amiel
If you don’t take that moment to acknowledge yourself and to feel the the pleasure in your achievements, you are effectively ignoring all your hard work and progress.
It’s the experiencing of the positive emotions that make it real!
When we make time for a little self-reflection and validation, we may just find that we don’t require it from others anymore.
We can get that from ourselves whenever we need it and feel just as good.